Getting Out Of Balance
By: Dr. Donald E. Wetmore
The underlying core of my more than 2,000 Time Management
presentations during the last twenty years has been the concept of
"balance". Success in managing our time has less to do with
the tools available to us, such as "to do lists" and
techniques for delegation, as it has to do with achieving daily
balance in our lives. If we are not in balance to begin with, we are
likely to sabotage our success. Successful Time Management then has a
lot to do with what we are not doing.
Heres my list of the seven best ways to "Getting Out of
Balance".
- Ignore your Health. Dont get the quantity and quality of
sleep you require. Dont take time for exercise. Eat the wrong
stuff. (90% of those who join Health and Fitness Clubs today will
stop going within the next 90 days.) Your resistance level will be
reduced and you will be susceptible to all the latest sniffles and
flues going around to insure that you take advantage of all the
sick days you are allowed. 75% of all adult deaths are
preventable. We are literally driving ourselves to early grave in
the "hurry-up, stressful" life of ours.
Its interesting when someone gets a new car, they
bring it in for the scheduled maintenance, put the right grade of fuel
in the tank, and keep it shiny and clean. Our pets visit the
veterinarian on a scheduled basis. In a recent study, 34% of the men
surveyed said they would not go to doctor even if they were
experiencing chest pains.
- Postpone Family time. They will always be there for you anyway
when you get the time for them. A student once asked me,
"what is the best way to take my four year old on
vacation?" I replied, "You take her when shes four
years old." Fifty percent of marriages wind up in divorce
court. Imagine, getting married at age twenty-five and twenty
years later, at age forty-five, you give up 50% of everything you
have worked for in your adult life in a property settlement in
divorce court. Its like the squirrel, gathering the nuts,
hoarding away while someone is drilling a hole in the side of the
tree to let all the nuts escape. The squirrel is too busy to hear
the impending threat. The average working person spends less than
two minutes per day in meaningful communication with their spouse
or "significant other" and less than thirty seconds per
day in meaningful communication with their children.
- Dont plan your Financial life. Be assured that your employer,
and if not, then the government, and if not, then maybe a kindly
relative will take care of your needs. Most people arrive at the
end of life financially deficient or dependant upon some type of
assistance from the government or relatives. Most people do not
spend a little of their time, on a regular basis, to create
financial freedom and live their lives they way they "want
to", but rather do what they do because they "have
to". Eighty percent do not want to go to work on Monday
morning. Ninety-seven percent say that if they did achieve
financial freedom, they would not continue with their current
employer or in their current line of work.
- Stay away from Intellectual development. You have the degree.
You read books at one time. Five percent of the population
purchases ninety-five percent of all the books. The other
ninety-five purchase the other five percent of the books. They dont
have time to read them. They give them away as gifts. You barely
have enough time to keep your head above water, what with work and
other interests. Coast with the knowledge you have. Its
draining away from you daily but hopefully you filled the
reservoir enough early on that it will carry you through your
life.
- Let your Social contacts decide your future. Follow the advice
of your friends about what you should be doing in your life even
if they are not in a place where you would want to be. Be ever
conscious of "What would my friends say/think if I did?"
Always seek out and act only with the approval of your peers. Take
comfort in the knowledge that when there is a void in your life on
how you should be spending your time, someone else will fill that
void and tell you what to do.
- Let your Professional life just happen. Do not establish a
lifetime plan of where you want to go. Take whatever opportunity
and advancement life gives you and be satisfied. Dont rock the
boat. Seek the familiar and avoid the strange. Play it safe. Make
it comfortable. If you chose a career path when you were eighteen
or twenty years old, and now at age forty you are unhappy, dont
consider a change. Hold on to that decision you made twenty years
ago. It will be like going to a twenty-year old for career
counseling.
- Avoid spending time in your Spiritual area. Not only in a formal
religious venue, but also in our relationships to others, our
community, our environment, and the universe. Leave those
questions to others to ponder. "When man forgets his Creator,
his own creations will turn upon him."
Dr. Donald E. Wetmore, a full-time Professional Speaker, is one of
the foremost experts on Time Management and Personal Productivity and
the author of "Beat the Clock". If you would like to receive
a free copy of his companion article, "Maintaining Daily
Balance", email your request for "maintaining" to: ctsem@msn.com
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